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What is the Empathic Supernova?

In order to detail this phenomenon, it is first necessary to consider when it might appear and what is behind its appearance.

The repeated application of our manipulations is deployed for the purposes of maintaining control over you. This control reinforces our notion of superiority,  omnipotence and impregnability and enables us to draw fuel from our appliances and most of all you as our primary source.

I have made mention of the Empathic Group, the group which lies to the left of the empathic-narcissistic spectrum and within this group there are four schools of the empathic individual; the Co-Dependent, the Super Empath, the Contagion Empath and the Standard Empath.

The sustained application of the many and varied manipulations produces results for us. It also takes its toll on our victims. The Co-Dependent will cling on, desperate for the self-definition which manifests as a consequence of their ensnarement with us. They will soak up the abuse, the confusion and the control until they reach a point of breakdown. The cumulative effect of the silent treatments, the gas lighting, the physical abuse, the psychological trauma, financial mistreatment and sexual degradation eventually causes the limpet-like Co-Dependent to collapse into numbness, malfunction and potential hospitalisation. They gave and gave until suddenly they fell off the cliff and their fuel provision remained impressive on Monday and by Tuesday it had stopped. No longer capable of pumping out fuel, attending to our requirements and showering us with appropriate traits and residual benefits, this failure to function invariably brings about the discard of this individual. The discarded Co-Dependent, although distraught at the loss of the narcissist which they crave, is in no position to try to bring about the resumption of the relationship and thus, whilst we focus on their replacement primary source, they are allowed a period by which they can recover and once the lights switch back on again and the fuel starts to pump, the devaluation of their replacement has begun, so we come looking and hoovering for the Co-Dependent. Unable to resist, because of the nature of the hoovering and their own vulnerability, they are hoovered back in and the narcissistic cycle continues.

Whilst third parties may try to assist the Co-Dependent to see and understand what has happened to them, their own substantial need to connect with a narcissist means it is very hard to make them take notice and stay away from us. Unless physically removed and isolated, the Co-Dependent will drift back to us. If not the original narcissist, a replacement narcissist will invariably be found.

The empathic-narcissistic spectrum is a sliding scale that represents both empathic and narcissistic traits. On the far left the empathic traits are more numerous and stronger whilst the narcissistic traits are fewer and weaker. Move to the right and the empathic traits begin to lessen in number, their effects less evident and the narcissistic traits begin to increase and become more prevalent. Eventually, as one reaches the Narcissistic Group, on the right of this spectrum, the empathic traits have disappeared and all that remain are narcissistic traits which become more numerous and stronger the further right one goes within this Narcissistic Group.

Accordingly, with the Co-Dependent, he or she will have many empathic traits and they are strong in nature. Their devotion to love, their honesty, decency, excellent listening skills, positivity etc are most evident and contribute to create a highly empathic individual. The narcissistic traits are almost invisible and the few that exist are weak. Accordingly, this prevalence of empathic traits attracts and is attracted to the prevalence of extensive and strong narcissistic traits. They locked together, complementing one another and consequently the Co-Dependent is inexorably drawn to those within the Narcissistic Group, with next to nothing in terms of their own narcissistic traits to act as some kind of repellant.

The Standard Empath may also find themselves shutting down, but more usually they are prevented from reaching a position of complete numbing though the intervention of a third party. Sure enough the toll exacted on the Empath is considerable and has damaging consequences, but, in general, they manage to avoid more often the fate of the Co-Dependent. Instead, rather than giving and giving until shut down occurs (as is the case with the Co-Dependent) the Empath’s performance deteriorates in terms of fuel output in a more gradual fashion which means that when it dips below a threshold of acceptability for our kind, the Empath is also discarded. Not so damaged as to be unable to function, the Empath will endeavour to re-connect with our kind, having sufficient energy and ability to do so, but they will be shunned as part of this discard until it is time to hoover them. Unaware of what they have been ensnared by and with capabilities improved after a period of respite arising from the discard, the Empath is sucked back in by the narcissist and thus the narcissistic cycle continues.

The Standard Empath however may also realise that something is wrong, or assisted by third parties and more amenable to listening, takes notice of what these third parties are telling him or her. They have a moment of ‘awakening’ and with that realise that they must remain away from our grip, however hurtful and hard it may be and thus they eventually escape, putting distance between them and our kind.

The Empath has numerous empathic traits and they are of strength but they are not on the same scale as the Co-Dependent. The Empath will have some narcissistic traits, not many and not especially strong in nature, but they will have more narcissistic traits than the Co-Dependent. Their status as an Empath (along with the fact that there are more Empaths than Co-Dependents) means that Empaths become the bread and butter target for our kind. They too are attracted to us, not with the almost hopeless vulnerability of the Co-Dependent, but they remain not only attracted to our kind but a target.

 

Finally, there is the Super Empath. The Super Empath is an excellent provider of fuel also and comes with a confidence and a fieriness which proves most tempting to our kind. The Super Empath sees his or her role as helping, fixing, healing and bringing goodness to those around them. They have considerable energy, they are capable and their capacity for sustaining our abuses also makes them a considerably attractive prospect. The Co-Dependent can sustain considerable abuse until suddenly, like a light being extinguished, that is it. The Empath also can sustain our manipulations but their slide is slower and more gradual. The Super Empath, blessed with a vast capacity for empathy and goodness is also somebody who can sustain a lengthy campaign of abuse. There is no slide downwards with this individual like the Empath. There is no sudden collapse like the Co-Dependent. Instead the Super Empath goes in to Supernova mode.

The trait make-up of the Super Empath is different from their cousins in the Empathic Group. Whereas the Co-Dependent has strong and many empathic traits with little and low narcissistic traits and the Empath has few and fairly low narcissistic traits but more and quite strong empathic traits, the Super Empath has a different constitution.

The Super Empath has very strong and numerous empathic traits. He or she also has a number of narcissistic traits (more than the Co-Dependent and the Empath but not as many as the Narcissistic Group) and they are stronger in nature than those experienced by the Co-Dependent and the Empath.

This arrangement is not problematic. Liken the Super Empath’s narcissistic make-up to the light from a candle and their empathic make-up the light from a spotlight. The intensity of the spotlight is so bright that the candle light is barely noticed. Accordingly, the narcissistic element to the Super Empath does not appear. The Super Empath behaves in an empathic way and thus is a target for our kind.

There comes a time however when the sustained abuse and the awareness of the Super Empath reaches a critical point. Rather than switch off or slide into decline, the Super Empath will decide that enough is enough. In some instances, this means that the Super Empath will escape and follow a similar route to that of the Empath and distance themselves from the narcissist.

On other occasions they enter into Supernova mode. When this happens, the Super Empath will dim their empathic traits. This can only be dimming. The empathic traits cannot be shut off as they are wired into the empath’s dna. Moreover, this dimming can only continue for a period of time and is not permanent. The naturally strong empathic nature of the Super Empath means that it will blaze bright again.

However, when this dimming takes places, the gap between empathy and narcissism in the Super Empath lessens so that the narcissistic traits are more prevalent. They do not dominate nor do they take over, but they are allowed to ‘shine’. However, whereas in our kind the application of our narcissistic traits is unfettered since we have no empathic traits and thus these traits are directed in a malevolent, harmful and destructive manner, the Super Empath uses these unleashed narcissistic traits for ‘good’.

This means that they will fight back against our kind and remain in the relationship with us. They will shut off the fuel provision, they will engage in manipulation of us, having learned how to effect it form their accompanying journey with our kind. The Super Empath will wound and wound, striking blow upon blow against the narcissist.  It is worth pointing out that the Super Empath does not necessarily know that they are with a narcissist (they may only realise this later) but rather they know that something is very wrong in the relationship and it must no longer continue.

Thus when some people ask the question

“Can you become a narcissist from being with a narcissist?”

or

“Can I pick up narcissistic traits from my experience of being entangled with a narcissist?”

The answer remains no.

But, if you find that you are exhibiting such traits and you are deploying them against the narcissist, what has happened is that you are allowing your inherent narcissistic traits to have greater prominence. You keep them under control and you are not allowing them to harm or hurt innocent parties, but rather you are applying them against the narcissist in order to strike back. You always had these traits, you have not gained them by being with us, but what you have learned is how to manipulate from being with us and now you are turning those manipulations against us.

The effect against us is varied.

The Lesser Narcissist will discard immediately with a display of ignited fury as he seeks to escape the turning of the tables. He will need to get away from this empowered Super Empath and find a new primary source straight away. He wants to shrink from this blazing  supernova of power which is causing him considerable difficulty through the cessation of fuel and the wounding from repeated criticism.

The Mid-Range Narcissist will find himself in a tormented loop as he tries to assert control. He will not comprehend truly what is happening. He will not want to lose the Super Empath owing to the fuel provision, but he is finding that his ability to manipulate is being sorely tested. He will try to assert his control through passive aggressive means, even pleading with the Super Empath to stop and ‘why can’t you be good to me again’? He will roll out the pity plays and sympathy cards in order to try to achieve superiority again. However,  either the Super Empath decides to escape and leaves the Mid-Ranger in a confused and bewildered state or the Mid-Ranger slinks away and discards,unable to sustain the fight and needing a new and far more compliant primary source.

The Greater Narcissist will rail against this insurrection and fight back. He will draw on fuel from alternative sources (usually the IPSS or IPSSs he has in the wings along with fuel from those NISS who are his inner and outer circle friends). He will relish the challenge shown by the Super Empath and a real battle of wills ensues as each combatant deploys manipulation after manipulation against one another. This hammer and tongs clash of the  titans sees the Super Empath applying what they have learned, similar to the apprentice turning on his or her master, as the old hand seeks to slap down the irreverent upstart. The Super Empath may withdraw and escape, satisfied that they have made their mark and scarred the Greater. The Greater may ultimately recognise that only a stalemate (for now) can ensue and breaks off, discarding the Super Empath and focusses on the acquisition of a new primary source (or more likely the promotion of an already ensnared IPSS). The Greater however will not leave matters there. A note will be made to rejoin battle in due course and bring the Super Empath to heel.

Thus the Empathic Supernova is when the Super Empath determines that enough is enough and he or she reduces their empathic traits, allowing the narcissistic traits to come to the fore and in so doing he or she trains their sights on making life difficult, miserable and awkward for the narcissist. This is why our kind proceed with caution with the Super Empath. Their capacity for sucking up the abusive devaluation and their impressive fuel provision is tempting indeed, but reaching the critical point and causing the ignition of the Empathic Supernova can have dire consequences for our kind.

Not for me of course. I relish the challenge and the assertion of hegemonic dominance. Obviously.

 

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Pluto, the mysterious reddish-coloured ‘planet’ (yes!), is the coldest, darkest and most distant celestial body in our system. The farthest from the Sun, Pluto is very secretive and hides itself below a standard orbit.

Pluto, the God of the Underworld in classical mythology, is calm, quiet, calculating, and stays under the radar! Birth, death, transformation, the underworld and rebellion are its strong suits. What many don’t realise is that it is possible to have these traits without being a pushover.

An empath can be assertive too.

Just like Pluto, true empaths hate being in the limelight but possess a potent dose of self-esteem and self-awareness. Therefore, they don’t need your validation – you may think they do… but, they don’t.

You can tell them apart from their calm, collected and introverted nature. They are the ones to sit in the corner and observe people. Analyzing people comes naturally and easily to them, as a result they do not trust people easily.

Empaths generally have a very good and sacrificial nature. Never ones to inconvenience anyone or start any troubles, they inherently know that their good nature, will attract narcissists, psychopaths and toxic people.

Their cold faces that crack a smile once in a while, sometimes combative physiques, and quiet mannerisms do the job of keeping away lower-range narcissists, sociopaths, and bullies away for the most part. However the smarter, more discreet narcissists is who they have trouble with.

These people have as equally low self-esteem as the most toxic of people, but they are smart enough to fly under the radar, by appearing friendly. These narcissists often prefer to verbally abuse or bully the empaths as the main source of their narcissistic supply to mask their inadequacy.

Empaths with their sacrificial, and loving nature, coupled with a capacity of taking a lot of stress and not reacting to every little slight, become easy targets for the coverts.

Covert narcissists know exactly how to push an empath’s buttons, and for a long time they succeed in doing so. But eventually, the empath’s discerning mind recognizes this behaviour for what it is-passive-aggression.

This is when the empath turns into the narcissist’s narcissist. Empaths are rarely, if ever, physically confrontational. They are tactical creatures – they have the ability to soak up a lot of abuse. They laugh and brush it off until things reach a breaking point.

And then everything changes.

Empaths generally have the ability to spin things on their heads. This reaction completely shocks the toxic people and tells them who is in charge. The realization of this toxicity is known to put the empath into a state of resentment for the narcissist, quite unlike their primary characer.

The empath seeks to destroy the narcissists’ entire ego-consciousness, which gives them their delusional power, based on their extreme low self-esteem! Narcissists lack the very same empathy that the empath typifies. They associate with people, with the sole goal of draining their energy, sabotaging them, and bringing them down to their miserable level.

This low vibration state is what the empath fights against. In their plutonic state, an empath thus becomes a narcissist’s narcissist. Mirroring them, the empath becomes devoid of empathy for the narcissist, turning extremely cold and aiming to destroy their fragile egos.

Empaths undergo many traumas and transformations in their lives, a source of their abundant empathy, and possess little ego of their own. The death of the ego, is an empath’s calling card– and from that point onward, they are on a mission to nullify that, in whoever they come across.

Empaths intuitively understand the negativity of the ego. They recognise the human ego, is the cause of every single quarrel, fight, war, oppression, abuse, bullying in our world.

An empath reaction to the inappropriate behaviour or attack of toxic people, is eternal silence. The sooner they can discover who the real abuser is, the wiser they become as a human.

The majority of negativity against empaths are therefore projections of the bad things that the person inflicting the toxic behaviour did to themselves or the way they perceive themselves. Narcissists and people with some degree of narcissistic tendencies tend to, and love to, use projection so that they can play victim as when needed, despite being the aggressor.

So, empaths have already won the game of life, without really wanting to participate in the proceedings. They pave the high road and always walk it.

Not a bad way to live, is it?



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In this article, we will answer the question ‘Can an empath destroy a narcissist?’. We will do that by initially describing an empath and a narcissist. This will follow up by describing their relationship. We will move on to discuss how narcissists destroy empaths and its reverse i.e how empaths destroy narcissists. Finally, we will discuss how to spot a narcissist and how to deal with a narcissist.

Can an empath destroy a narcissist?

Yes. An empath can destroy a narcissist. However, it is challenging and takes active effort on part of an empath to break the vicious and dysfunctional cycle of the abuser (narcissist) and abusee (empath) relationship. Their relationship is imbalanced especially since a narcissist is driven to feed off compliments and love from an empath to feel good about themselves. Along with destroying them emotionally using their manipulation skills. It takes a while for an empath to come to this realization and even harder to step up and break this cycle. However, it is possible that an empath destroys a narcissist with a few self-awareness and interaction tricks in their dealing with a narcissist.  

Empath

An empath refers to an individual who is sensitive and able to feel the emotional pain of other people.  They can understand other people’s perspectives and are driven to help and heal them.  Usually,  they hold their partner’s feelings and help them process it together.  However,  with the narcissist, this does not go well as they let the empath be the sole holder of their painful emotions and feel that this is their right. 

Narcissist

Narcissists are people with a hidden sense of insecurity.  They try to overcompensate it by using their skills to get compliments and favors from other people so that their wounded self-ego can get inflated.  Their need for admiration, self-importance, and sense of entitlement starts in early adulthood.  They have difficulty empathizing with people.  Usually, instead of owning their feelings, they project their insecurities on other people.  They are aware when people withdraw their love and care from them due to their behavior.  However, they know how to emotionally manipulate and get back the unauthentic love.

The relationship between an empath and a narcissist

A narcissist feeds on compliments,  money, and favors from other people.  An empath is generous, kind, and trusting enough to provide all this to a narcissist who feeds off them and take their advantage.  

The relationship between an empath and narcissist is unbalanced.  It resembles a parasitic relationship.  The narcissist is preoccupied with emotionally feeding off others to fulfill their egotistical needs. They use manipulation and control to you have the power in the relationship.  Whereas the empath tries to heal the wounded narcissist but ends up becoming the powerless victim.

Why the relationship continues

It is difficult for an empath to discover a narcissist and the fact that they are being used because their nature is to give love to other people unconditionally.   They justify or give explanations to a narcissist’s reasons for doing cruel things.  They even try to cure and help them but it does not happen. Since the narcissists are satisfied with who they are and do not want to change. 

An empath has an underlying belief that if they can make a person who is unable to love,  love them,  they are truly worthy of love.  In other words,  they are driven to a narcissist to desperately receive validation. This is because during their childhood they were unable to receive unconditional love from their parents.  So, they seek this validation from an unloving narcissist to restore their self-worth. The vicious cycle continues as an empath associates love with pain and continue to try to fix the narcissist and tolerates the abuse. 

Such a dyadic relationship is dysfunctional but both partners are equally responsible for the imbalance.  The empath needs to realize that they have to set boundaries and refuse to internalize the narcissist projected feelings of inferiority.  They need to walk away instead of being walked over before it is too late. 

How narcissists destroy empaths

A narcissist  can destroy an empath using:

  •  Manipulation and control especially as they are aware that empaths are susceptible to being manipulated the most.
  • An empath is less guarded and is not really careful about who to trust. Thus, a narcissist can take advantage of this and easily use their manipulation on them.
  •  A narcissist has a high ego compared to an empath who has a low ego.  As a result, a narcissist’s ego can dominate and empath.  Over time, he or she may become the victim and start to doubt themselves.  They may even develop depression. 

How empaths destroy a narcissist

 An empath does not like to be the center of attention.  However,  he/she has self-esteem and self-awareness. They don’t need external validation from others, unlike narcissists.  They have good observational and analytical skills due to which they can understand others. They have a good heart and look out for other people.  Yet, they are aware that their nature attracts narcissists, toxic people, and psychopaths.  However, they can learn how to keep such people away in a smart and discrete manner. 

On the other hand, narcissists have low self-esteem but they hide it well.  They mask their insecurities by bullying an empath.  So,  the relationship between an empath and a narcissist becomes one way a source of stress and imbalance.  The narcissist knows how to break an empath.  But an empath can fight back after recognizing this passive-aggressive behavior. 

Upon realizing this, an empath can dominate a narcissist and call upon a confrontation.  They have a unique ability to turn the tables around and clearly state who is in charge. Because of this, a narcissist’s ego that gives them a delusional power comes under threat. 

As a narcissist’s goal is to drain other people’s energy,  this is fought back by an empath who can turn cold and destroy their ego. Such an experience is highly transformational for an empath who can react to a narcissist’s inappropriate behavior by powerful silence and good comebacks.  A narcissist’s abusing behavior and statements are actually projections of their own self-perception.  They can easily play the victim and emotionally manipulate empaths. However, an empath can take the lead and destroy the narcissist by using their people skills and setting boundaries. 

How to spot a narcissist

A Narcissist puts down other people to feel good about themselves.  They use their people skills and engage in a passive-aggressive communication style to point out the mistakes and imperfections of others on a regular basis but in a subtle manner.  

They do this too to make someone feel helpless and imperfect. Doing so helps them lessen the impact of their own faults.  This is a way they avoid facing their own imperfections and maintain a sense of dominance over other people. Furthermore, they emotionally manipulate others when they withdraw from them. They become the victim and make the other person the aggressor through their words. 

Spotting these traits can help identify a covert narcissist

How to deal with a narcissist

  • When a narcissist makes fun of you,  use the same casual and light tone, and make a comeback.  This will unsettle them and they would eventually stop making such attacks.
  •  When a narcissist does things passive-aggressively,  point it out and ask them the reason behind it.  This puts them on the spot and they would have difficulty defending themselves.
  • When a narcissist points out a flaw in you,  point the same flaw in them. 
  • An empath can use their empathy as a superpower.  They can do this by going in the opposite direction of their conditioning i.e. instead of understanding other people’s pain and helping them, they can try to reflect and give themselves space. Try to understand their own pain and take care of themselves instead of others.
  • Learn to catch red flags of a  narcissist and acknowledge they exist.  Take help from a therapist and reflect on the narcissist’s and their own patterns of responding and figure how to to change them. 

FAQs: can an empath destroy a narcissist?

Do narcissists love empaths?

No. Narcissists adore empaths because they can feed off them but they do not love them in the true sense of the word since their love is driven by selfish reasons.

Can I outsmart a narcissist?

Yes. Narcissists have good people, manipulation, and controlling skills. However, one can outsmart a narcissist by being in control of one’s emotions and disarming the narcissist in the process.

What is the narcissist’s weakness?

A narcissist dislikes being embarrassed and having others point out their flaws.

What happens when you set boundaries with a narcissist?

When a person sets boundaries with a narcissist, they will try to play the victim. They will argue, blame, and minimize the other person’s feelings and call them ‘inconsiderate’ or ‘too sensitive’.

Conclusion

In this article, we answered the question ‘Can an empath destroy a narcissist?’. We found that an empath can destroy a narcissist. However, it is challenging and takes active effort on part of an empath to break the vicious and dysfunctional cycle of the abuser (narcissist) and abusee (empath) relationship. Their relationship is imbalanced especially since a narcissist is driven to feed off compliments and love from an empath to feel good about themselves. Along with destroying them emotionally using their manipulation skills. It takes a while for an empath to come to this realization and even harder to step up and break this cycle. However, it is possible that an empath destroys a narcissist with a few self-awareness and interaction tricks in their dealing with a narcissist. I hope you found this article interesting. If you have any queries or comments, please state them in the comment section 🙂

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How An Empath Turned Supernova - Embrace The Dark Side

A Supernova is an empath with the incredible ability to show stamina while in a relationship with someone who has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

He/She knows how to appreciate and value everyone but understands his/her own value, too.

He/She is resourceful enough to turn the tables around if the situation calls for it, especially once he/she has learned about the real behavior of the Narc.

Narcs are very attracted to them because of their generous, kind and forgiving traits but, at the same time, are very afraid of them as only Empath Supernova has the ability to rise up against the Narcs.

Narcs are scared of them the most once the Empath Supernova has managed to break-free from the toxic relationship and has gone “No Contact” because distance from the Narcs allows these Supernovas to clear their minds off the manipulation.

And most of all, once the Supernova has healed and recovered from the Narcissistic abuse, Narcs are scared of them because they are the only ones who are most capable of doing what these Narcs are most afraid of…EXPOSURE!


In my fair share of experiences, I was completely unaware at first that I had an Empath Supernova tendency.

But everything was made clear to me when I finally had the courage to end my long-term relationship with my Narcissistic ex.

During the time when I was executing my Exit Plan, I took the time to study his behaviors and came up with a strategy in order to discover who he really was behind the mask.

In order to successfully carry out the plan, I knew I needed to unleash my own Narcissistic traits (meaning, forcing myself to not feel any empathy towards my Narcissistc ex) so that I could play along with his mind games.

For a moment, I forgot about being honest and fair when dealing with him because I knew all along what he’s been doing behind my back.

I created a different (temporary) persona in order to endure the sickness of his games.

I continued playing the role of a stupid partner who’s still in-love with him and who’s 100% willing to accept him despite the fact that I have discovered a lot of disgusting facts about him.

While he was under the impression that he was still the one who’s manipulating me, he failed to notice that the tables were slowly being turned against him.

It was too late for him to realize that I was already the one who’s planting seeds of doubt in his head; making him feel paranoid, stressed, and unsafe.

The manipulator then became the victim of manipulation, which caused him a lot of Narcissistic injuries.

And when the point came when I had “seen and heard” enough of his real-self without him knowing, that’s when I knew that I was ready to cut ties with him for good.

I asked him to move out of my house and to never return again.

But at that time, I knew I still cared for him that’s why the last line I ever said to him that night was, “Ayusin mo yung buhay mo, please! Wag mo sanang sayangin ang lahat ng pinagsamahan natin.”

I guess it was more out of pity than care because I knew in my heart that that was the end of it.

Although I was mad at him because of all the lies and disgusting things I discovered, I knew that there’s still goodness in his personality.

I still wanted him to be okay and have a good life.

However, I could no longer do anything about it.

He couldn’t be fixed.

That’s just how he operates.

So no matter what I do, he would remain to be the same pretentious, fake, two-faced lying Narcissist who would cause my greatest failure.

And I didn’t want to feel miserable all my life, all for the sake of someone who never loved me and cared for me.


Although it took me a while to finally find out the truth, despite the fact that I knew that there’s something wrong with him ever since the beginning, I was still happy that I was able to end it without making any room for regrets.

There may have been a lot of things that I’m unable to “unsee” or “unhear”, at least, these are the very same things that would always remind me that I ended the relationship for all the right reasons.

Lastly, there may have been a lot of reasons why I decided to end the relationship, but perhaps the most apparent was the fact that I discovered that the man I loved was the kind of a man whom I would never ever love.

Well, without stating the obvious, that’s the very reason why he needed to put up a mask in the first place.


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Empaths and Mental Health: The Boundless Spirit

The Spiritual Source of Empathy

Empaths can also take on others' trauma. The reason for this is highly spiritual. From the perspective of Source (God or the Universe), there is no such thing as separation. As we move down in densities or dimensions from Source energy, we start to see different perspectives and archetypes, until we get down to the densest form; our physical reality. 

In this density, we have man and woman, human and animal, love and fear, good and evil, healed and unhealed. The perspectives once we come into physical form are endless. And our journey is all about using our heart space - using love - to return to a state of Oneness. This Oneness is how we can experience Source and how Source can experience us experiencing Source.

When an Empath is born, they are incarnating more open to this perspective of Oneness than others. They come already open to the ultimate definition of love - taking another as yourself.

But what happens when the other doesn’t value you? What happens when the other person isn’t open to love and doesn’t see the value of what you are doing? This allows for unconscious energy to take life force away from the Empath. This makes it harder for the Empath to operate in a world where we are conditioned to not express our authentic truth, feel even our darkest feelings, and think our darkest thoughts.

 

Why Do Empaths Exist?

In short, the reason for Empaths being here is for them to learn to protect their own energy and embody both their shadow and light aspects, while maintaining the ability to tap into, care for, love, and identify with whoever they encounter. This makes Empaths healers to themselves and the world around them. They are here to set clear boundaries for themselves, regardless of whether they can take on the emotions of others. This mastery of self and the outside world is the Empath acknowledging oneness with all things and people. It is also the Empath acknowledging where they begin and end and where another begins and ends, so they don’t get overloaded by energy. Once they can do this for themselves, they teach others to do the same and to heal by setting clear boundaries, and dealing with their OWN TRAUMA first, as opposed to zeroing in on the traumas of someone else and taking it on entirely, putting themselves on the back burner. 

The Empath has a very specific and very heightened journey. It is the process of integration, a journey we are all also on, but a journey and process that Empaths are much more sensitive to. They not only have their own trauma to deal with, but they carry the torch for the trauma of the Collective.

This process is difficult, but, the more that others' traumas piles onto the Empath, the more the Empaths’ traumas bubble up to the surface - becoming impossible to ignore - which then results in a complete purge, so that the Empath can finally HEAL the original wound.

The traumas that Empaths take on usually mirror their own to the same intensity or capacity. This match is what allows the Empath to identify with others and to also identify their own wounding. However, this mirroring can attract even more trauma if the one they're empathizing with is an abuser. But even then, the Empath learns to push back and set themselves free.

This pushing back against the abuser or constant oppression births what is called the Empath Supernova.

What is the Empath Supernova?

The Empath Supernova is what the Empath becomes when they are triggered by too much stress on the senses, the psyche, and the soul, to the degree of which the Empath will instinctively protect itself by taking on their more Narcissistic traits. They now not only have their Empathic traits available to them, but they can also embody all of their suppressed and learned Narcissistic traits and use these traits against the abuser or cause of their oppression, pushing them far enough away often scaring the other, for the Empath’s survival and escape.

Once the Empath is safe, the Empath Supernova retreats into its state of being Empathic, and the Narcissistic traits become somewhat dormant again. An Empath can’t become a Narcissist, but Empaths must learn to integrate their darker aspects with their lighter ones for survival and energy protection.

Pushing back against abuse and oppression must become a constant so that, eventually, abuse and oppression are not even on the same frequency as the Empath.

 

Empath Healing

There is no way for an Empath to stop being an Empath. But they can learn to manage their empathy and the anxiety and depression it can bring so it doesn't debilitate them. 

The way for the Empath to manage this is to become completely aware of their own wounding, their own traumas, their own pain, and perceived setbacks, and care for themselves. 

Empaths need to learn to take care of themselves and become aware of their own feelings first — a concept that may seem completely foreign but is necessary for their purpose, survival, and wellbeing.

These special individuals can seek professional help for managing their emotional wellbeing, learn to do it on their own, or both. The more self-aware Empaths become, the more they can embody their authentic selves - and our authentic self ALWAYS chooses to love and care for itself first.

 

Empaths in Relationships

It is usually difficult for Empaths who have not managed their abilities to be in relationships. Whether or not their wounds are mirroring the wounds of their partner, Empaths are completely and utterly in-tune with their partners to such an intense degree, that it is as if they move as one.

Now, because this hasn't been managed, the effect on the relationship can turn toxic. 

The reason being, the Empath has not learned to establish clear boundaries within themselves and so cannot do that with others--yet. Empaths also develop anxiety from “mind-reading” their partner; Empaths hear and feel what is said with a sixth sense as well as hearing and feeling what isn’t said. That, coupled with a partner who has unresolved trauma or is emotionally unavailable in a way where the Empath’s needs aren’t being met, can lead to co-dependency, and a sense of a loss of self for both parties. 

The relationship becomes too intense for the Non-Empath who has unresolved issues within themselves to take care of, as well as dealing with the intensity of the connection. The Empath suffers from being pushed away by their partner, the burden of "just wanting to help,” and the overwhelm of taking on the trauma of their partner.

When the couple inevitably splits, the pain the Empath feels is insurmountable to that of a Non-Empath. They now have to let go of the trauma of their ex-partner, while still identifying what within them attracted this partner and the unhealed aspects of themselves that mirrored their partner, and heal from all of that as well as healing from the break-up.

Of course, there is a way for Empaths to have and maintain healthy relationships. Once Empaths comes into balance with themselves, relationships with them are still intense, but are something resembling Heaven. Empaths are caring, thoughtful, warm, attuned to things beyond the physical, completely loving and accepting, and non-judgmental. They are beyond supportive, captivating, and yes, can empathize with their partner like no other.

It will feel as if the Empath was tailor-made entirely for you - a gift. Because that’s what they truly are - gifted individuals.

 

The Empath’s Journey

For Empaths to have healthy and thriving relationships, they need to work on the relationship they have with themselves, and stop feeling shame for feeling so very deeply. They have to see themselves as a light, and they have to learn to value being a light for themselves just as much as they are a light for others. Uncovering and unlocking whatever it is that makes them feel unworthy and unlovable, lost, misunderstood, and without a place to call home in the world is the inward journey of the Empath - it is the true definition of the Hero’s Journey. Once Empaths learn to do this, they are free.

They are free to love themselves and others - in all their shadow and light - without shame, judgment, or fear. They realize that they are the love they have been seeking in the world, and can not only give love but learn to RECEIVE love from their partner, and from anyone for that matter.

Isn’t that what we’re all here to do? Become our own savior and hope we can share that salvation with another. 

All in all, being an Empath is a seemingly impossible web that the Empath feels that only they alone can figure out. But this is not the case. Empaths must learn self-care, self-awareness, and self-love. Part of that is reaching out for help. Empaths come here to teach about love, oneness, and the importance of setting healthy boundaries. 

When Empaths reach out, they allow others to step into their more empathic side to help, listen, and learn. 

This is not a mental illness. This is an ability, skill, and gift. With help and management, the Empath will be able to see their emotional world as such.

Sours: https://mywellbeing.com/therapy-101/empaths

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